When we can love ourselves, whether someone else loves us or not, we can love them even if they do not love us. This allows us to maintain a solid connection with our partner even when our partner is angry, hurt, or even momentarily unable to express love for us.
The interesting thing to me is how much egocentrism existed in each of these articles. Each woman felt they were alone in their marriage, and the decision was up to them. Each flailed about on their own with the decision instead of recognizing the issue as being about a lack of intimacy that was present in the marriage, not just the man.
On the surface, the logical rational side of things, there is no way to see the pain and upset that was hiding beneath the surface. Without taking the time to truly listen with empathy to what is happening inside the other person, neither Sara nor Jeanie would have had a clue as to what was really going on with their partner
September of last year my friend was going through a really hard time. She was attempting to launch herself as a singer, speaker and life coach and had been struggling financially. At one time in her life she had been an extremely successful pharmaceutical sales person and owned a 3,000 sq ft home and drove [...]
When we carry childhood wounds (and, okay, tell me someone who doesn’t and I’ll tell you somebody’s not being honest) we have learned things about the world that we believe to be true. These are like the Four Agreements by Don Miquel Ruiz, we learn or accept certain things to be true about the world, then we go about proving them through the process of our lives.
When we can communicate with our mate what it is that turns us on, it excites them. When we show our pleasure to our partner, they get excited, which then turns us on.
Yet of course, the Smart Marriages coalition and the anti gay marriage activists all claim marriage as their highest value. So why is it if this is the highest value for this group, that their marriages fail?
We have become so inured to it that we don’t even notice it. We assume boys are quicker to anger, and are less able to control their sexual impulses. We laugh about a man’s inability to know how to hold a baby (never mind that he may never have been allowed to hold a child before).
I posted on my Facebook page about how little compassion we, as a culture, have for people who act badly. Okay, yes, we are upset that Tiger, who many of us had on a pedestal has fallen so far down. But it happens to the greatest of men in the greatest of roles. Why should [...]
The words carry a lot of connotation. Google says it’s meaning is: “beloved: a beloved person; used as terms of endearment”, but then it says, “Beloved” means “someone who is loved; something that is loved”. I think they call that circular logic.
